Men and Money
At a recent event, my friend Jennifer stopped by to say
hello. After the event, we had the following conversation:
Jay- "What do you think
about Zeek?" (a guy who was participating in the event and
who I knew personally.
Jennifer- "No thanks, I am
just not attracted to him. Well actually, what does he do for a
living?"
Jay- "He is in xxxyyyzzz"
Jennifer- "Forget
it. He doesn't make enough. I need a man that makes more
money than I do"
Jay- "So at first you said
not interested, but if he happened to be a doctor or lawyer, then you
might have changed your mind? What does it matter if you make
more money than he does?" What ever happened to getting
involved because you like the person and want to see if something can
develop?
Jennifer- "I am
accustomed to a certain lifestyle. I need a guy who makes at
least six figures, because I do. I have tried dating guys who
don't make as much as me and it just doesn't work. It bothers
the guys as well. They get an inferiority complex. Most
men want to earn more than a woman."
Jennifer- "Women in their
early 20's want someone who is hot and fun, someone they get along
with."
Jennifer- "For women in
their late 20's, early 30's, the priority becomes friendship first,
then attraction."
Jennifer- "For women in
their mid 30's and up, it becomes about lifestyle. (standard of living
to which you have become accustomed)., the kind of life you will have
with this man. Looks and that other stuff is
secondary."
Jay- "So when you
say lifestyle, you are talking about how much money the guy has?"
Jennifer- "I didn't say
that. Lifestyle is about the standard of living to which I have
been accustomed. I look at the type of life I can have with this
man. Looks and that other stuff is secondary."
Jay- It sounds to me like you
are still talking about how much money a guy makes.
Jennifer- "I need someone
who likes to do the same things as I do. Someone who can afford
it." I have supported my share of deadbeats, and I am not
doing it again"
Some very interesting comments. Please share your thoughts in
the blog.
Guys- Would it bother you or give you an inferiority complex if the
woman made more than you do?
Ladies- Is Jennifer right? Once you hit your mid 30's, it is
all about "lifestyle"?